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Holy Moly Where Has the Time Gone: A recap of 2017 and what's coming up for 2018

Hey friends! It's been several months since I've been able to update the blog with a new post, but it's been for some of the coolest reasons. October was the start of a very busy season for my doula business. I was honored to serve at several births in October and November, as well as represent Doulas of Central Maryland at the Frederick Birth and Baby Fair, teaching at newborn care workshops, and beginning to design a postpartum planning workshop (you guys know how much I care about the postpartum period, it's a doozy that needs way more attention than we give it.) 

 While on call, my phone is always in hand. Especially at night!

While on call, my phone is always in hand. Especially at night!

It was a great season with a few, "Jesus Take the Wheel," moments. I learned something new at each birth, and was really stretched at some moments. So much growth happens in hard moments, and it reminds me why I LOVE this work so much. 

So back to why there hasn't been a post in three months. I typically do all my blogging late at night after my kids and husband are asleep. It means I get blissful uninterrupted silence, but I stay up well past midnight to get it done. Staying up so late while being on call for my families just wasn't smart. I needed to get proper sleep at night, be present for my kids during the day, and let some aspects of work take the back burner for a bit. 

Now I am back and ready for the new year! I wanted to recap what I learned this year, some changes, and what's going to happen for 2018. 

Earlier this year I injured my stomach, and got a crash course in Diastasis Recti, pelvic floor issues, and the red tape that goes along with insurance and some care providers, There are tons of resources out there friends! Don't get discouraged and keep looking for help! I can now share that my DR is down to a one finger gap, and I'll be seeking out pelvic floor therapy later in the season. I'll be writing about the experience, so you guys get all the information on it. Because no one should deal with peeing when they sneeze, painful sex, or just plain pelvic pain. 

 Sleeping more has been a priority. Can't take care of mamas if my eyes can't stay open. 

Sleeping more has been a priority. Can't take care of mamas if my eyes can't stay open. 

I also signed as a contractor with Deborah Bailey's doula agency, Doulas of Central Maryland (check us out here: www.doulasofcentralmaryland.com). Having a team behind me, has given new life to my doula practice. The wisdom, support, and back up of these three women have helped me to hone my skills. So what does this mean for clients coming to Living Heart Doula? You can still have me as your doula with all my support, but with the agency we can offer you more services including placenta encapsulation, belly binding, photography, and postpartum doula support. 

For the coming year, I am looking at the ways I can serve my readers and clients better. I will be adding an email newsletter to share more information, new blog posts, and find new products and services that serve pregnancy and parenting. I love the local businesses in our area, and want to share their offerings with you guys. (Who doesn't love awesome service with a friendly discount!) In these newsletters, I may  be polling and asking for feedback. What services are you looking for? What would you like from your doula services (aromatherapy vs massage)?

I am hoping to design and host more workshops this year. Postpartum planning is near and dear to my heart, so that is my starting focus for the new year.

I want to do lots and lots of blogging.  

Most of all, I want to serve my growing families and support their births. Loving on families and babies is the best. 

So tell me friends, what do you want to see from LHD this year? What are  you learning about? What are your plans for 2018? 

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So What's a Doula? Answers to the top three questions about birth work

Often when someone hears that I am a doula, the first questions about my field are:

Is that like a midwife?

That's for home births, right?

But then what does the dad do?

 

Let me address these questions, then I'll share exactly what a doula does for her clients.

 

Is that like a midwife?

Nope. A midwife is a medical professional that oversees your and baby's medical care through pregnancy and birth. Midwives are typically low intervention, and are great advocates for natural birth. A midwife can practice in a hospital, birthing center, or private home birth practice depending on the state.

 Midwife checking on baby. Midwives can serve births at hospitals, birth centers, and at home. If you are having a low risk, healthy pregnancy, midwifery care may be for you.

Midwife checking on baby. Midwives can serve births at hospitals, birth centers, and at home. If you are having a low risk, healthy pregnancy, midwifery care may be for you.

 

A doula does not dispense medical advice, and it's out of their scope of practice to perform any medical procedures (temperature, cervical checks, manually feeling your belly for fetal position, etc.) Instead, a doula is a wealth of resources and knowledge. If you are faced with a procedure during your pregnancy and you are unsure of your options, a doula can help you to research the procedure and suggest questions to bring to your provider. We don't want to make decisions for you, but help to empower you in your decisions. We offer resources and support both prenatally and during birth.

 

When you begin to labor, you can call your doula to be with you whenever you want her. A doula can help you to labor at home longer and more comfortably (A well trained doula knows the signs in labor to transfer to the birthing location. However, whenever mama wants to go, is when we head in. We can also make transferring more comfortable too!) We are equipped with birth balls, rebozos, essential oils, and massage techniques. We can help with positioning, counter pressure for back labor, grabbing snacks, and making suggestions for other coping strategies. We are also there to support you emotionally, and can help with any mental blocks. Labor can be a crazy, emotional, messy time, and we are there to protect that space and see you through it. I reassure clients that she can release on me in a way that maybe she couldn’t with her mother-in-law around.

 Airlia is sitting on the birth ball while I help keep heat and pressure on her lower back. Even while being monitored, there are ways to keep moms comfortable and not just in bed.

Airlia is sitting on the birth ball while I help keep heat and pressure on her lower back. Even while being monitored, there are ways to keep moms comfortable and not just in bed.

 

A midwife will usually come as you are heading in to active labor if you are birthing at home. If you are at a hospital or birthing center, they will be around to check in with you, but won’t likely be with you the entire time. They will be with you during pushing, and can aide with protecting your perineum with stretching or counter pressure. Your midwife is the other half of the equation to your birth team.  Midwife + doula + partner = Fully Supported Mama

 

That’s for home births, right?

You may be hearing about doulas from your crunchier mamas. While I do support mamas that choose to birth at home, I also happily support families that birth at the hospital or birthing center. If you are planning a natural birth, opting for medication, or scheduled cesarean, I fully support you in your best birth. That looks different to different families, and no mama is the same in what she needs to birth with confidence. What matters to me is that you have options, and are fully supported in your choices.

 

But then what does the Dad do?

Doulas do not replace partners. Dads, partners, and other support people all have a role to play in supporting the mama. As a doula, I care about their needs as well. I can offer tons of support to Dad who may be nervous about how the labor is progressing, and pull him in with tips on how to offer counter pressure on a sore back, show him how to use a rebozo on mama’s belly to help a posterior baby turn, and I can be the one running to reheating the rice pack so he can be with you. It’s a team effort, and I am here for both of you! 

 

Here’s the nitty gritty on what a doula does for you:

  •          Meets with you in the weeks before your due. Meetings are usually to go over any health issues, any problems from previous births, and any lingering anxieties or fears about the labor. This allows us to develop strategies to help you cope during labor, and to develop your birth plan. We want to get to know you, so we can better support you.
  •           Having your doula present can:

o   decrease pain

o    decrease the need for epidural or pain meds

o   Shorten labor

o   Improve parent-baby bonding

o   Lower rate of postpartum depression

o   Lower caesarian rate 

 

  • While we aren't birth photographers, we will happily snap photos and video of the birth if you'd like us to.
  •  Doulas can help with the first breastfeeding session, and can help support you in the early days as well. If you choose to bottle feed, we are happy to support you with that too!
  •  Once you are home from the hospital, your doula will check in with a postpartum visit. This visit is usually to go over the birth, discuss how you and baby are doing, and help with any issues you may be facing. Having a baby is life changing, and no one understands this more than your doula. Birth is beautiful, hard, emotional, transforming work.

 

So to recap, doulas offer non-medical support for birthing families, offering education and physical and emotional support through the birthing process. We support all kinds of birth, and can act as guide through the experience.

 

 I am honored I get to witness it. I am honored to serve the growing families in my community.

 

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